Are we really living?

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Recently I decided to take a step back from social media because I realized that I was entirely way too focused on other people's lives. This wasn't the first time that I had done this but this was the first time I actually analyzed why. I noticed that I was spending hours a day scrolling on my IG feed, Facebook, Twitter, SnapChat and back again looking at my "friends" live their lives. I've had conversations with my friends who are parents about their kids watching other kids play

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with the same toys that they have at home on Youtube meanwhile their toys are either left untouched or played with exactly how someone else played with them. To me this is no different than adults and social media. We're sitting there watching our peers play with our toys all while we either neglect our toys (gifts, talents, resources etc.) while ours go untouched or we try to emulate what someone else is doing to gain success.

We all know that if we didn't get a ticket to a concert, it's ok. We'll probably see every leg of the tour through Facebook Live, Instagram Live or SnapChat. (I've definitely been guilty of this.) You missed your friends birthday, no worries you can attend the same way. Weddings and Funerals aren't even safe which leads me to ask the question "Are you even paying attention and enjoying where you are?" Seriously, I've seen your kids off to school, went on your anniversary with you, I've even seen some of y'alls legs in the tub for bath time. (Don't act like you don't know the famous "me time" snap).Concert

Social media is great for entertainment, networking, keeping up with family and friends in such a mobile time but don't miss the beautiful things happening right in front of you while you're so focused on someone else's beautiful thing.

FOMO

IMG_0549I don’t know about y’all, but I know I find myself way too often looking scrolling down my timelines on Instagram, Twitter, FaceBook and SnapChat over and over again looking at what everybody is doing and of course it looks AMAZING!!! And what does that lead to??? FOMO.

What is FOMO?

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Thanks Urban Dictionary!


For me, FOMO usually happens when I’m sitting in the house on a Friday or Saturday night, hell any night in Houston, and start seeing people out and about in the city. In creep the thoughts “Why didn’t I know about that” “Dang, they didn’t tell me they were doing that” “They look lit!”. Even though I’m what they call a social introvert and needs lots of time to recharge between social events, I still feel that I need to be at EVERYTHING. Then the feelings set in so I make sure I make plans to run the streets so I can be out in the city moving around…but the funny thing is, once I get out and about its not always as fun as it was when I was watching on my phone.

Is there a cure for FOMO?

I’m glad you asked! Yes, there’s a cure. Do what the hell you want! Go out when you want, stay in when you want (and be confident in your decision). Also, remember that most people only put the best parts of their lives on social media so don’t feel bad when you don’t feel like you measure up. Chances are, they don’t either.

Love,

Neesh