Dating in 2017 is rough for millennials. We’re at a time in our lives where it feels like EVERYBODY is married and starting families. Every time you log on FB, SnapChat, Instagram there’s a wedding, sonogram, baby this baby that. It sometimes leaves me asking if God forgot me.
Trust me I’ve had my share of bad dates and relationships but that doesn’t stop me from getting out there and trying again. It might make me sit in and consider being a cat lady (even though I can’t stand cats) but it doesn’t stop me completely.
Here are a few things to keep in mind while maneuvering through this crazy dating life:
- NEVER SETTLE
Ladies (and gentlemen), never, ever, EVER lower your standards because you want a man, woman, or whatever. Now things like height, skin color, eye color etc can be compromised but never settle for being treated less than you deserve!
- Treat Yo Self
Figure out what YOU like. I challenge you to sit down and write down 5 things you like to do, 5 things that make you smile, 5 things you like as gifts. This challenge is to help you figure out what things YOU like. You have to know how to keep yourself happy with or without a mate.
- Date yourself
It’s ok to take yourself out to eat, catch a movie by yourself, go to the museum, happy hour etc. Dating yourself gives you a chance to see how you would like to be treated. If you’re reading this and think going out with yourself is boring, think again. Plus, how can you expect someone to enjoy being around you if you don’t enjoy being around you?
- Have fun until you find the one!
Yes, this sounds corny, but its true. I mean honestly…what else is there to do? Get out there, live life, have new experiences, date that guy, take that trip. Don’t sit idle waiting on anyone. Life isn’t going to stop because your single.
- Love Yourself!
If you need to take breaks to care for yourself do it! YOU are whats important and if you’re not your best for you, you definitely won’t be your best for someone else. And like RuPaul says, “If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?”